Somebody once said to me that holding onto anger was like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die, this statement changed the way I viewed certain aspects of life. Holding on is an instinctive habit every human has whether it’s pain, love, grudges, anger or even the materialistic things in life. Subconsciously the reason we hold on is fear this can be the fear of change, the fear of loss or even the fear of facing our reality in the present moment.
I have always to be the one who struggles to let go of emotional pain and this is what drew me towards writing this blog, this right here is almost like facing my greatest fear, just like many others emotional pain has never been easy for me to deal with. During one rare silent moment I asked myself why it was so hard for me to let go..why was I still holding on to every painful emotion I had faced as a child, a teenager and an adult however it wasn’t as easy to get the answer because I would experience the pain whilst I was questioning it, during the beginning the tears were quicker to come than the answers but I didn’t let that stop me, I knew better than to not break through this fear, I questioned why?, every time I meditated and after a good 3 weeks  it came to me that I have lived in the fear of facing my present moment and reality , I have been running away from facing my truth because I don’t want to feel and experience a form of loss. As soon as I had established this I promised myself that I will face this obstacle and this too shall strengthen me and help me love myself more, understand myself more and most importantly will help me grow. So bit by bit I started to work on myself I opened every door slowly and took the small steps in the right direction. Meditation, journaling and spiritual exercises are what worked for me the most.
JOURNALING
- I write down every emotion that goes through my body, mind, heart and soul it’s almost as though my emotions have the voice and freedom to be as real and trues as they can be. If I have strengthened I will be able to read them if not I will write more or some days I will just write it and leave it. There is no correct or incorrect way of journaling it is a form of exercise used to practise expression in a silent and private form
MEDITATION
- Just like journaling there is no correct or incorrect way to meditate. What works for me is to close my eyes whether I am lying down or sitting. I imagine sitting on the beach under the sun/moon light and I vision a bubble of stress and pain on my palm and the stronger my emotions get the more my bubble floats higher and gets bigger, by the time I have expresses and experienced all my emotions it will go to the sun/moon and burst. (this suggests to me that the stress and pain has now been taken away and left me)
SPIRITUAL EXERCISES
- Write and burn/Flush – I would write down the emotions and experiences that I want gone the most, the ones that are causes me the most pain and then burn the piece of paper or flush it away(the purpose of flushing or burning away is to feel the sensation of the stress leaving your heart, mind, soul and body, trying to vision this may prove more productive)
This for me was one of the greatest achievements I have achieved since I turned 28 this year, it enlightened me and made me realise the importance of letting go, holding on is an obstruction which we are causing for ourselves, It is only creating a blockage between us and our potential growth a few prime examples which I have picked up from the people around me have been:
HOLDING ONTO ANGER – DISTURBS YOUR MENTAL PEACE
HOLDING ONTO ONE SIDED LOVE- STOPS YOU FROM RECEIVING WHAT YOU DESERVE
HOLDING ONTO GRUDGE – PREVENTS YOU FROM MOVING ON
HOLDING ONTO EMOTIONAL PAIN – STOPS YOU FROM FACING YOUR FEARS
HOLDING ONTO HATE- PREVENTS YOU FROM ATTAINING INTERNAL AND EXTERNAL LOVE
HOLDING ONTO FEAR- STOPS YOUR SELF DEVELOPMENT
HOLDING ONTO JEALOUSY – IMPACTS YOUR CONFIDENCE AND PUSHES AWAY POSITIVE PEOPLE
HOLDING ONTO NEGATIVE ENERGY -BLOCKs AWAY POSITIVITY
These are just a few examples of how the energies we hold onto and feel attract the avoidable obstacles, pain and negativity in life. The universe is very generous and powerful so let’s all think about what we put out to it for us to manifest FEEL IT… IDENTIFY IT…HEAL FROM IT then LET IT GO….
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