We live in a generation where we as people are afraid of our own company. Lets think about the amount of times we’ve sacrificed ourselves in the name of acceptance from the society and others. Do we actually want to take every step we take in life or are we just afraid of being alone if not accepted? , how much of our own lives have we even lived for ourselves?…you are aware of every little thing that may make your family, friends and dear ones happy and fulfilled but how about you? the truth is that these thoughts don’t even cross our minds let alone raising the questions. Have a think about how many you could answer, what makes you happy?, what do you love the most?…what feeds your soul?. All these questions can be answered whilst spending time with yourself, on yourself. Like the saying goes everything you want in life can be found within you. Align your energies, love yourself and you will be served with love all around you, find what you are looking for from the world within you, be it acceptance, love, happiness, growth , positivity and all the other good things in life. We as humans are quick at expecting from each other rather thank looking within us, attain these qualities and energies within your existence first and you will see the universe reflect them back upon you. How can we expect from others what we are not capable of serving ourselves, for instance you need to respect yourself in order to be respected by others, how can you have expectations when you haven’t set the standards right yourselves.
Being comfortable within your own self and figuring out who you are and developing are all slow processes to be built and worked towards. The main thing is that we don’t run away from this growing aspect of life out of fear. Why should you have to feel afraid of you own thoughts and existence. In fact the more we are self aware the more we are capable to develop in every aspect of life. You will notice the swift change in you confidence and how you become more self dependent then you ever have before. You find yourself internally fulfilled.
Whenever i i say that i am going away traveling on my own i always hear people respond differently, my family find t weird whilst my friends may question why i don’t go with them but the truth is that when i solo travel that is my time for me, i embrace, love and enjoy my own company and no i don’t shy away from asking for that table for one in any corner of the world, it actually gives me a chance to observe and people watch as well as take everything in. Some can be nice and smile, some may want to be friends, some may think your naive and vulnerable, some may just be miserable and some will even look at you out of pity(they make me laugh the most). After having traveled alone i don’t think i’d enjoy certain adventures as much with any other company than my own. When with myself i am not tied down or obliged to do anything around anybody else’s time and needs. I can go to local library in Rome or the museum in Sydney and then just have a glass of wine in a civil manner , this to me is my happiness right there. Traveling solo has been my biggest eye opener for me to realize how impactive solitude is towards my freedom, it made me realize and regret how i have spent my life within fear, the fear of being alone and judged by the society in life. I saw how secure and safe i was with my own existence, my being and my thoughts. Most importantly i was the happiest i had been in a while. I am self aware and know what aspects i am less confident in, growth never stops in any human at anytime in life, it is consistent however what is important is to embrace your present and promise yourself to work towards the future you vision and desire. I have come to my own little conclusion that life can never be perfect because we will always require different things during different phases of life but with the qualities of self love, self awareness, self embracement and self development we can overcome almost any battle and attain our happiness within. :)….we don’t all have to go and solo travel to attain our solitude but we can all start somewhere, here are a few steps that could help you build towards your happy soul 🙂
- Go to a cafe,buy yourself a drink and enjoy it seated on your own 🙂
- Spend 15 minutes of silence on your own whilst examining your thoughts
- Maintain a daily journal, fill it up with your deepest desires and thoughts
- Spend an hour doing what you love doing the most in life on your own
- Go to the park or the outdoors and spend quality time with yourself in nature
Remember this is just the beginning….learn to fall in love with your solitude 🙂
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